If Only I Could Find the Manual….

…to being a parent!

I love – read, LOVE my son. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me (getting married to my best friend is only slightly below that, but still, Monkey is the BEST) and I love him with all my heart and every fibre of my being. At 8 months old (as of yesterday!) he is creeping (learning to crawl), playing with everything, eating many different foods, feeding himself, laughing, smiling at everyone, getting many teeth (just cut his 7th!!), chasing the dogs, and learning and growing every day.

But do you know what he is not doing?
Not at night. Not during the day. Not in the car or the stroller or the baby wrap. He has a sleep-aversion, I suppose, and it’s taking its toll.

Here is a typical 24 hour period for us:

6:30am Rise and shine! Time to start the day.
8:00am Nap #1
8:30am Awake! Play, go for a walk, errands, whatever.
11:00am Nap #2
11:30am Awake! Play then lunch.
2:00pm Nap #3
2:30pm Awake! (Do you see a pattern?) Play, activities, whatever.
5:15ish pm Dinner, naked time (for him, not us!)
6:15pm Bath then bedtime activities (lotion, jammies, nurse, story)
7:00pm Bedtime
9:00pm Random awakening, pat back to go back to sleep (and no, he will not just go back to sleep if I left him alone. Yes, I’m sure.)
10:00pm Wake for a little nursing top-up
12:30am Wake for no reason whatsoever. Back pat or cuddle back to sleep.
2:00am Wake….I nurse him (probably don’t need to but he always seems hungry so I do)
4:30am Wake…attempt to cuddle, back pat, whatever to go back to sleep.
5:30am Wake…bring him in to bed with us out of sheer exhaustion.

Like….seriously? I could do EITHER an early awakening OR short naps OR frequent wakings at night but really? All three? And I do NOT deserve this, I was sleeping through the night at 8 weeks old I will have you know. I deserve a good-sleeping baby, damnit!

We were on a better path just a few days ago but apparently at 8 months old many babies hit a “sleep regression” plus he just cut a tooth.

I have searched high and low and I just cannot find the manual for this child that tells me what to do!

Ok, your turn. I am dying to know what you wish was in the Mommy Manual at your house! How is your child different? Has she/he ever done something strange that leaves you scratching your head? Please share so I know I am not the only one going through a rough patch!!

*Note: I am NOT looking for advice on how to get Monkey to sleep. I have tried everything under the sun, read countless books, articles, websites and blogs. I have come to begrudgingly accept that this is his fault (I have allowed him one, this is it. He’s also given himself the curse of hating the car but that’s another story for another day). Thank you 🙂


  • Hmm let's see… well Ella is almost 15months old yay! However she still only has 4 teeth and I am sure that she must be the slowest child ever at getting teeth. I just dont get it!

  • ok…so i had this brilliantly worded response… then something happened and it all went away.
    So here's the basics.
    1. You are a SuperMom!!- you are this because you LOVE your child
    2. Not all kids get SuperMoms- I know this because my step-neice doesn't have a super mom. She actually runs from her mother.

    I wish in all mommy manuals that is said LOVE your child UNCONDITIONALLY… and that this is a choice. You have obviously chosen to do this and think that is AWESOME!

    And after saying that you read all those books and tried every trick in them… I believe I will now reference you as my mommy guru when I have a child 🙂

    Love you,

  • I wish the Mommy Manual would tell me how to deal with a little girl who inherited her mommy's personality (those who know this mommy will know what that means!)!! She gets in these super cranky moods and doesn't want anyone to touch her! That feels great when you're a mom, your baby doesn't want you to touch her! The best we can do is put her down on a blanket and leave her alone until she's calm! So frustrating!

  • Thanks for your comments, everyone!
    @ Janelle – wow, Ella really is slow to get those teeth!
    @ Lisa and Jenelle – very true. I really do wish everyone would love their children unconditionally. As much as it is difficult to get through these weird, rough phases, as long as we love our kids to the core they will be just fine 🙂
    @ Kaitlin – oh my…so the apple doesn't fall far, eh?! You must feel so loved and wonderful when your daughter doesn't want anything to do with you! Let's hope this is a phase and she will soon be snuggly and affectionate like her Daddy!

  • I will send good sleep vibes your way:)

    I have the pickiest eater possible! She used to spit back out baby food (homemade or jar – I tried al of them)and lives off very limited items. She is still growing and has lots of energy so I gave up worrying and just try to get most of the food groups in even if it is the same items ALL the time. In Brenna's world vegetables are not part of any food group LOL.

    Then there is Clare. She has taken to biting when she gets frustrated and not getting what she wants. She is also an expert at throwing herself on the ground – head bang included at times and screaming. I have learned to lay her down and let it happen. Thankfully this has not progressed to outside the house too much. I can just imagine the stares!

    Hang in there Melanie:)

  • Check in the glove box or under the seat – that's where the manual should be!! Now if you can find those places, you'll be golden!! LOL!!

    Story – I was blessed with Big D being an awesome sleeper since day one for the most part. When I was pregnant with Little D, I remember all y friends saying that they didn't sleep a full night through after the second kid arrive for at least 4 years! I thought they were nuts!! I mean, Big D was so easy, how could I go wrong with Little D?? I mean, Big D slept so good because of the sleep training we did, right?!?! Well, I'll just tell you this – was up 4 times with the boys last night

    SIGH – another 2 years before a good night sleep….

    But you're an awesome Mom. And your second will be the good sleeper 😉


    Patience…. patience…. patience….

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