My Pink Spectacles

If you’ve read my blogs before, you know that I’m the first to acknowledge the adversities of being a military family and, more specifically, a military spouse. Sometimes it seems like it’s just one thing after the next after the next. It can feel like the hits just keep on coming and we can’t stay afloat.

It’s so easy to say “This was a terrible day/week/month/deployment/etc.” There really often are big stretches of time, hours or days, that feel that way. But as I was reminded recently, not always, but most often, we have a few bad moments in a day/week/month/deployment/etc that cloud the rest of the time and make it all feel terrible. It’s like when you get a work performance review. Most of us could receive nine amazingly complimentary comments and just one negative one, and what do we focus on the most? The one, of course.

 

If you know me personally as many of you do, you also know that I am what most consider to be a “bubbly” person. I am generally cheerful and outgoing and optimistic. I like to joke and I love to laugh and enjoy doing things to put a smile on the face of another. It’s just my nature and I’m grateful for that. It’s what brings my head out of the clouds and provides me with the rose coloured lenses I most often try to wear while viewing the world. I usually wear them, these rose glasses (can you just picture that, literally? Me, crazy brown curls springing every which way, green eyes, big smile, and some huge-ass pink glasses). It is through these glasses I can so easily spot the blessings in life:

I am grateful to be a stay at home mom. A certified teacher, I do miss the classroom, but love my playroom more. I miss my students, but love my children more. I miss my co-workers, but love my friends more. I miss the paycheques, but love the memories more.

I am grateful to be part of the military community. Some days I curse it with huge, inappropriate f-bombs. But most days I am so lucky to be part of something so big, so important, and so proud. I would have no reason to live in a town with beaches and rapids, another with rolling fields of canola and handsome cowboys, and another with a gorgeous waterfront and rich history. Our soldiers wear their combats and flags with so much pride…it *almost* equals the pride that we┬áhave in them.

I am grateful to have an ever growing circle of friends and to meet new ones all the time. Just this morning I had coffee with a seasoned military spouse who had lots of advice and an understanding shoulder to lean on. One thing I have learned is to make as many friends as you can as quickly as you can. Some you’ll keep for a posting, some for a life time, and some maybe just until you meet others you click with better. But go and meet them, meet them all!

I am grateful for David’s Tea. Enough said.

I am grateful for leggings.

I am grateful for family who texts and calls and comes to stay with us.

I am grateful for the big green tree outside the playroom window.

I am grateful for the colour turqouise because it makes me happy.

I could go on and on but it would be tedious to read (if it isn’t already).
The reason I’m listing these things for which I am grateful is not just because it makes me happy (which it does). It’s to show you that although things can be hard and days can suck and sometimes crying is just the right thing to do, you, too, can rock a pair of rose coloured glasses.

I challenge each of you reading to take 30 seconds right now and slip them on. Go ahead, no one’s watching. Besides, you look dead sexy in pink.

Are they on?

Good.

Now look around you. What can you see, smell, hear, and feel on your body that you are grateful for? What made you happy today? Who made you happy today? What was the last thing you ate that was so awesomely delicious that you ate until you thought you’d burst? Didn’t that make you happy? Stay grounded. Stay sane. Stay optimistic. Some days, take the pink glasses off. Be grouchy and unbearable and cry and drink lots of wine and eat lots of chocolate and go to bed early. But the next day, before you even get out of bed, put them back on. Start your day with an attitude of gratitude because no matter what your situation, there are always things to be grateful for.

And besides, you look dead sexy in pink.

Take care,
Mel

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