A Different Kind of Baby Blues

Jellybean. Look at those rolls!

I always knew I wanted to be a mother. From the days of Cabbage Patch Dolls and onward, I tend to be a nurturer and knew I wanted my very own tiny Mels when I grew up. I figured I would have three since I am the youngest of three kids myself and loved having a “buffer” sibling if one of them couldn’t be at a family function.

When Hubby and I married we knew we wanted a baby right away. Five months later we got pregnant with Monkey and in December of that year he came earthside and turned us into a family of three. 

Most of my friends who had their first babies around the same time I did waited a little more or a little less than a year before trying to bake bun #2. I waited to feel that twinge of wanting a second, of feeling that we needed another child, but it didn’t come as fast as I thought. We even talked about stopping at one and just having Monkey. After all, we couldn’t ask for a better, cuter kiddo.


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Cleavage Sweat (I had you at “cleavage”, didn’t I?)

I thought it had been a few months since I last wrote. I was right…if by “a few” I actually meant “12”. Egads. Well, readers (and by “readers” I mean my friends and family and the few readers who clicked “I’m feeling lucky” on the Google home page and landed here by accident), I am long overdue for an update. I am hoping that by writing just an update today I’ll  get my writing mojo flowing again and will write on a more regular basis.

The last time I wrote I was heavily pregnant with Jellybean and was suffering from a pretty overwhelming dose of Mommy Guilt. At that time I had friends and family rallying and supporting me with encouraging comments like, “You’re a great Mom! Two kids will be no sweat!”,  “Of course you’ll love the baby as much as you love Monkey!”, “You were a kindergarten teacher. If you can manage 18 kids you can definitely manage two!” and “Three cheers for Mel!” followed by a rousing chorus of “Hip, hip, hooray!” by hoards of people at a local community event. Okay, that last one didn’t happen. But I’m sure it would have if I had simply been in the right place at the right time.


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The Second Time Around…

A second blog in just a few days – lucky you!

I had a fantastic coffee date this morning with a close friend whom I have really  missed while I was on holidays. It was wonderful to catch up, have our three-year-olds play quietly together, and snuggle her brand new baby. We got to talking about a topic that is currently a big deal to me and we agreed that it wasn’t something commonly discussed, so I thought I’d share my thoughts on the issue.

Today’s topic is having a second child and Mommy Guilt.


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Three Nights

Oh…my heart….

This isn’t really how I expected to feel this morning.

I have been looking forward to today for almost a whole year. Today begins the Canadian National Training Conference for my home-based business. Thousands of people are coming to Edmonton, a stone’s throw away from me, including people in my own Area and Nation and I am beyond thrilled. It is a weekend away to develop both personally and professionally. I’m rooming with some girls from my team and it is going to be great. (*Re-reading this section just now I noticed the distinct absence of exclamation marks…)

Except that I just dropped Monkey off at Lady’s house for daycare and I feel closer to tears than euphoria. I thought I would see him off and then come home, crank some tunes, and dance around while I pack. Instead, I’m sitting here with a weight on my chest and uncried tears burning the backs of my eyes.


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Okay, let’s be honest

I’ve gotta be doing some things right. Right?

Before I had Monkey, I didn’t give a lot of thought to how other people parented their children, other than to form thoughts like, “Oh what a great idea” or, of course, “I will NEVER do that” *cough, cough, If I’d only known…*

When Monkey was born I very quickly realized that I didn’t know a thing about being a Mommy. I trusted my intuition sometimes, asked for advice from fellow moms, and did a lot of reading. I always felt like I was just treading water, smiling on the surface but kicking like hell under the water just to stay afloat. I assumed that once Monkey reached the age of “x” I would feel confident in my parenting.


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One Days (Yes, plural)

Hello again! I just came across this in my “Draft” folder and realized it never got published. So to honour the mood I was in that day, it finally makes it into the bright light of public viewing and scrutiny. 

And for you tonight, dear readers, a list of One Days.
You know, One days. As in, “one day I will do this….”
I make no promises as to the clarity or sensibility of this because I’m really tired but I was in the mood for writing so you get what you get tonight.

The A Type personality in me really like lists, so here is another one for you.


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I Never…

Cast your memory back to those university days when you may or may not have played the drinking game, “I never” (or a variation of the same title). Well now that we’re all grown up (at least, some of the time), let’s play the Mama version.

I’ll start – I’ll write something that I NEVER thought I would do as a parent but HAVE DONE. If you have also done this then you indicate that and then write your own, “I never…”

I never let Monkey sleep in bed with us (and I “never” do this about every third or fourth night…more if Hubby is away!)

Okay, your turn. And don’t leave me hangin’, here!! Remember, if you HAVE let baby sleep in bed with you then you say so and then write your own “I never” statement. Feel free to comment more than once to keep this going for a bit!

Favourite Baby Things

As a (relatively) new mother there are certain things that I very quickly learned I couldn’t live without. I love these products so much I thought I would share them with you! Pictures of items are taken from Google or directly from the product website.
(Note – these are listed in the order they came into my mind, not in the order I like them best)

 1. Moby Wrap

I couldn’t live without this! Monkey is NOT a good napper during the day and for the first 5 months of life would seldom nap in his crib so this was the only way I could get stuff done! Even now, weighing in at a hefty 20lbs I still use it all the time.

2. I’Coo Pacific Stroller

This little baby is one sweet ride. Forward or backward facing, bassinet to seat all in one piece. Awesome on snow, sand, grass, whatever and it folds down quite compactly. I’ve received many compliments on it!

3. SoftBums Cloth Diapers

We spent about $600 when all was said and done on our SoftBums stash and have never looked back. We never need to buy disposables except when laundry isn’t available (like in hotels for extended periods) or in rare occasions like now, when we are battling a night-time leak situation that I’m sure is due to something we are doing NOT the diapers since I have several friends who use these without any issues. I HIGHLY recommend cloth diapering! As you can see from the picture, you can start using most of them right from the very beginning!!

4. Foaming Tot Wash by Rocky Mountain Soap Company

This baby wash is easy to use, smells good, is easy on their skin and good for the environment. ‘Nuff said, no?

5. The Baby Bullet

Now that Monkey is eating solid food, this bad boy comes in really handy. You can take your time and cook up something special just for him, or toss in a banana, avocado, peach, or whatever you’re having for dinner yourself and blend it up in seconds (providing it’s safe for your babes to eat what you are having, of course).

I’m sure as soon as I post this I’ll think of many other things that I love having, but that’s a start at least!

Your turn! What can’t you live without for your kiddo(s)?